The Habit of Rationalizing and Justifying

RATIONALIZING and JUSTIFICATION is the JOKER that the Ego has up it sleeves, to keep you trapped in trying to convince others that you are right.

When something evidently is not working, rationalization comes in handy, pointing out that there are flaws to the evaluating system.

It says: “If there would have been different circumstances, the evading rationalizing would have proof of its point of view.”

Rationalization is only necessary after the proposed fact is evidently wrong, and you won’t accept that.

Rationalization seems so convincing, that it will even make you ignore facts.

For example: “I had a car accident, but it wouldn’t have happened if…”
“I had a fight with my partner, but it only happened because s/he doesn’t understand…”
“I don’t have enough time, so I can’t do that…” (Then I have an emergency and suddenly I have time to take care of it.)
“I don’t have enough money, so I can’t do that…” (Then my TV breaks or muffler falls off and suddenly I do have the money to pay for it.)

When you catch yourself rationalizing, stop and realize that you are making yourself apparently powerless and need to reevaluate your excuse deflection, if you want your life to be the way you want it to be.

Now, prove this to be wrong… Ha Ha Ha…

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

RATIONALIZING and JUSTIFICATION is the JOKER that the Ego has up it sleeves, to keep you trapped in trying to convince others that you are right.

When something evidently is not working, rationalization comes in handy, pointing out that there are flaws to the evaluating system.

It says: “If there would have been different circumstances, the evading rationalizing would have proof of its point of view.”

Rationalization is only necessary after the proposed fact is evidently wrong, and you won’t accept that.

Rationalization seems so convincing, that it will even make you ignore facts.

For example: “I had a car accident, but it wouldn’t have happened if…”
“I had a fight with my partner, but it only happened because s/he doesn’t understand…”
“I don’t have enough time, so I can’t do that…” (Then I have an emergency and suddenly I have time to take care of it.)
“I don’t have enough money, so I can’t do that…” (Then my TV breaks or muffler falls off and suddenly I do have the money to pay for it.)

When you catch yourself rationalizing, stop and realize that you are making yourself apparently powerless and need to reevaluate your excuse deflection, if you want your life to be the way you want it to be.

Now, prove this to be wrong… Ha Ha Ha…

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

The Premise

Defining YOUR PREMISE is important, because it WILL DEFINE YOUR STRATEGY to how you will access your well-being and reach your goals.

Do you believe in the premise that you are naturally nurtured and provided for, so you can relax into well-being and an easy abundant life.

Or do you believe in the premise that you are delivered into a faulty body and a life of struggle for survival. This premise leaves you struggling with limitations and mentally fabricated stress.

When you Surrender to Well-being, you assume the premise that you are already created perfect, and are supposed to live a life of peace, thriving, and enjoying your creativity.

When you try to Produce Well-being, you assume the premise that there is something wrong with you, your life, the world, and existence that must be corrected, leaving you feeling faulty and busy struggling with a declining body and limited resources.

To switch from a mis-thinking destructive premise to a wise constructive premise you have to gain correct understanding and complete any Incomplete Experiences, so you can live fresh, in present time and access your innate Life-force and wisdom and thus connect with your naturally peaceful, joyful, abundant well-being.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

Defining YOUR PREMISE is important, because it WILL DEFINE YOUR STRATEGY to how you will access your well-being and reach your goals.

Do you believe in the premise that you are naturally nurtured and provided for, so you can relax into well-being and an easy abundant life.

Or do you believe in the premise that you are delivered into a faulty body and a life of struggle for survival. This premise leaves you struggling with limitations and mentally fabricated stress.

When you Surrender to Well-being, you assume the premise that you are already created perfect, and are supposed to live a life of peace, thriving, and enjoying your creativity.

When you try to Produce Well-being, you assume the premise that there is something wrong with you, your life, the world, and existence that must be corrected, leaving you feeling faulty and busy struggling with a declining body and limited resources.

To switch from a mis-thinking destructive premise to a wise constructive premise you have to gain correct understanding and complete any Incomplete Experiences, so you can live fresh, in present time and access your innate Life-force and wisdom and thus connect with your naturally peaceful, joyful, abundant well-being.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

The Breathing Control System

In your life you have most likely had some unwanted experiences, which you then resist repeating by inhibiting your breathing and being less alive. This sub-ventilating is intended as a protection.

This sub-ventilating is your automatic controlled attempt to homeostasis – it is the way to make sure you don’t touch those memories and remain unchanged. This is the BREATHING CONTROL SYSTEM, and it reasons that staying in status quo is keeping you alive, and any change “could” be dangerous.

But, in fact, this Breathing Control System is slowly killing you, because it leaves you with a less than optimum amount of Life-force and oxygen, which is a growing ground for many dis-eases and it also leaves you tired, lazy and a lack of passion.

The way the Breathing Control System works is to make sure that the amount of Source Energy – Life-force you add through inhaling and awareness will never exceed the amount of energy you use up, through physical and mental tension.

The Breathing Control System monitors:

  • How much energy you “take in” (through breathing and awareness) and then ‘FORCES’ you to “use up” an equal amount.
  • How much energy you “use up” (through moving, tensing and thinking) and then “MAKES” you take in an equal amount of energy.

When you increase your energy by Breathing more and being more Aware, the Breathing Control System makes you get rid of this energy by making you tense up or get mentally active and unaware. Like, when you feel more, you nervously move, including deflating self-talk and zooning out.

When you decrease your energy, by Tensing, Moving, Thinking and Zooning out, the Breathing Control System makes you fill up on energy by making you Breath more or Think less. Like, when you run and have to take a breather, you focus and breathe deeply, void of thinking.

Sometimes the Breathing Control System gets OFF GUARD. Then, Natural Breathing kicks in and you sigh, yawn, laugh, be emotional, exert yourself and sleep.

Once you realize the benefits of breaking the Breathing Control System, you will intend to RETAIN more energy than you use up. That is what happens when you do Natural Breathing.

If you break the Breathing Control System, you will retain more energy than you use up, and end up with an EXCESS of energy and that energy must go somewhere.

This retained excess energy will go to blocked places in your body and your mind and recover the aliveness of those areas. It will go to and remove blocks in your “energy body” and uproot any sub-conscious blocks – leaving you healthier and more alive.

If you intend to use “Breathwork” to permanently heal an issue, improve your Well-being and for Self-discovery, you will need to Build Up and RETAIN more energy than you usually keep. This means you have to interrupt your Breathing Control System, by CHOOSING to build up energy, through breathing and awareness, and REFRAINING from using up the increased energy, which you do by keeping your body and mind – Conscious, Still and Relaxed.

Breaking the Breathing Control System will complete incomplete traumatic energy blockages and open up space for your Life-force to enliven your Well-being and conscious success and happiness.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

In your life you have most likely had some unwanted experiences, which you then resist repeating by inhibiting your breathing and being less alive. This sub-ventilating is intended as a protection.

This sub-ventilating is your automatic controlled attempt to homeostasis – it is the way to make sure you don’t touch those memories and remain unchanged. This is the BREATHING CONTROL SYSTEM, and it reasons that staying in status quo is keeping you alive, and any change “could” be dangerous.

But, in fact, this Breathing Control System is slowly killing you, because it leaves you with a less than optimum amount of Life-force and oxygen, which is a growing ground for many dis-eases and it also leaves you tired, lazy and a lack of passion.

The way the Breathing Control System works is to make sure that the amount of Source Energy – Life-force you add through inhaling and awareness will never exceed the amount of energy you use up, through physical and mental tension.

The Breathing Control System monitors:

  • How much energy you “take in” (through breathing and awareness) and then ‘FORCES’ you to “use up” an equal amount.
  • How much energy you “use up” (through moving, tensing and thinking) and then “MAKES” you take in an equal amount of energy.

When you increase your energy by Breathing more and being more Aware, the Breathing Control System makes you get rid of this energy by making you tense up or get mentally active and unaware. Like, when you feel more, you nervously move, including deflating self-talk and zooning out.

When you decrease your energy, by Tensing, Moving, Thinking and Zooning out, the Breathing Control System makes you fill up on energy by making you Breath more or Think less. Like, when you run and have to take a breather, you focus and breathe deeply, void of thinking.

Sometimes the Breathing Control System gets OFF GUARD. Then, Natural Breathing kicks in and you sigh, yawn, laugh, be emotional, exert yourself and sleep.

Once you realize the benefits of breaking the Breathing Control System, you will intend to RETAIN more energy than you use up. That is what happens when you do Natural Breathing.

If you break the Breathing Control System, you will retain more energy than you use up, and end up with an EXCESS of energy and that energy must go somewhere.

This retained excess energy will go to blocked places in your body and your mind and recover the aliveness of those areas. It will go to and remove blocks in your “energy body” and uproot any sub-conscious blocks – leaving you healthier and more alive.

If you intend to use “Breathwork” to permanently heal an issue, improve your Well-being and for Self-discovery, you will need to Build Up and RETAIN more energy than you usually keep. This means you have to interrupt your Breathing Control System, by CHOOSING to build up energy, through breathing and awareness, and REFRAINING from using up the increased energy, which you do by keeping your body and mind – Conscious, Still and Relaxed.

Breaking the Breathing Control System will complete incomplete traumatic energy blockages and open up space for your Life-force to enliven your Well-being and conscious success and happiness.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

The 5 Breathing Basics

There are some occasions where your breathing pattern changes by itself and you are made to breathe in a different way than your regular breathing. These occasions are when you sigh or yawn; you fall asleep; you exert yourself, like running; you are emotional; you laugh; you are excited; etc.

When you investigate what happens to your breathing during these occasions you will find that they all include some of the 5 Breathing Basics, but none of them include all 5 at the same time.

Natural Breathing INCLUDES ALL of these 5 Breathing Basics at the same time. When you do all these Characteristics together, you’ll RETAIN more Life-force in your body, than you usually have. This uproots engages holding back and raise your Success Tolerance and Well-being.

A Natural Breathing Session starts with jump-starting the 5 Breathing Basics, like using a starter to get your engine going, by mimicking the 5 Breathing Basics.

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The 1st BREATHING BASIC
– CHOOSING AWARENESS

  • Awareness means to have a sensation or experience of BEING, here and now. 
  • Awareness is not an idea, thought, try or observation.
  • You are aware when you have an experience.

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The 2nd BREATHING BASIC
– BREATHE WITH YOUR CHEST

  • Your lungs are what you breathe with, and they are located in your chest.
  • Your rib-cage is built to change size as evidenced by the chest being constructed with ribs and space between the ribs. There are also muscles between your ribs, that can make your rib-cage change size and thus inflate and deflate your lungs.
  • Starting your inhale with your diaphragm doesn’t happen naturally, when you sigh, exert yourself or have an emotion. Breathing starting with your diaphragm can only be activated through your thinking, manipulating your breathing.
  • When you yawn or sigh, fall asleep, laugh, are emotional or exert yourself your chest is expanding and collapsing with the breathing.

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The 3rd BREATHING BASIC
– BREATHE FULLY

  • Filling your lungs fully, provides all the benefits of oxygenating the body and living life with passion, excitement, and charisma.
  • Because of the low breathing set-point, to practice Natural Breathing you need to INHALE MORE THAN YOU ARE INCLINED TO.

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The 4th BREATHING BASIC
– BREATHE CONTINUOUSLY

  • Breathing Continuously means that you connect your inhale and exhale in a continuous manner, like when you fall asleep and when you run.
  • A PASSIONATE CONTINUOUS RHYTHM and A GOOD TEMPO happens when you are excited or when you exert yourself, like when you run and are eager and excited.

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The 5th BREATHING BASIC
– BE RELAXED

Being Relaxed means that you RETAIN the Life-force that Natural Breathing builds up.

Make sure you don’t waste your increased Source Energy and refrain from:

  • Holding or pushing your Exhale.
  • Physically tensing or moving your body.
  • Mentally being distracted with thinking or worrying, or “trying to breathe”.

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* Caution – Do not do these 5 Breathing Basics on your own without first having been trained by a Natural Breathing Coach.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

There are some occasions where your breathing pattern changes by itself and you are made to breathe in a different way than your regular breathing. These occasions are when you sigh or yawn; you fall asleep; you exert yourself, like running; you are emotional; you laugh; you are excited; etc.

When you investigate what happens to your breathing during these occasions you will find that they all include some of the 5 Breathing Basics, but none of them include all 5 at the same time.

Natural Breathing INCLUDES ALL of these 5 Breathing Basics at the same time. When you do all these Characteristics together, you’ll RETAIN more Life-force in your body, than you usually have. This uproots engages holding back and raise your Success Tolerance and Well-being.

A Natural Breathing Session starts with jump-starting the 5 Breathing Basics, like using a starter to get your engine going, by mimicking the 5 Breathing Basics.

———————————————–

The 1st BREATHING BASIC
– CHOOSING AWARENESS

  • Awareness means to have a sensation or experience of BEING, here and now. 
  • Awareness is not an idea, thought, try or observation.
  • You are aware when you have an experience.

———————————————–

The 2nd BREATHING BASIC
– BREATHE WITH YOUR CHEST

  • Your lungs are what you breathe with, and they are located in your chest.
  • Your rib-cage is built to change size as evidenced by the chest being constructed with ribs and space between the ribs. There are also muscles between your ribs, that can make your rib-cage change size and thus inflate and deflate your lungs.
  • Starting your inhale with your diaphragm doesn’t happen naturally, when you sigh, exert yourself or have an emotion. Breathing starting with your diaphragm can only be activated through your thinking, manipulating your breathing.
  • When you yawn or sigh, fall asleep, laugh, are emotional or exert yourself your chest is expanding and collapsing with the breathing.

———————————————–

The 3rd BREATHING BASIC
– BREATHE FULLY

  • Filling your lungs fully, provides all the benefits of oxygenating the body and living life with passion, excitement, and charisma.
  • Because of the low breathing set-point, to practice Natural Breathing you need to INHALE MORE THAN YOU ARE INCLINED TO.

———————————————–

The 4th BREATHING BASIC
– BREATHE CONTINUOUSLY

  • Breathing Continuously means that you connect your inhale and exhale in a continuous manner, like when you fall asleep and when you run.
  • A PASSIONATE CONTINUOUS RHYTHM and A GOOD TEMPO happens when you are excited or when you exert yourself, like when you run and are eager and excited.

———————————————–

The 5th BREATHING BASIC
– BE RELAXED

Being Relaxed means that you RETAIN the Life-force that Natural Breathing builds up.

Make sure you don’t waste your increased Source Energy and refrain from:

  • Holding or pushing your Exhale.
  • Physically tensing or moving your body.
  • Mentally being distracted with thinking or worrying, or “trying to breathe”.

———————————————–

* Caution – Do not do these 5 Breathing Basics on your own without first having been trained by a Natural Breathing Coach.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

Goal Oriented or Living On Purpose

Goals are about living for the future – Purpose is living in the now.

Basing your happiness on goals will at best give you temporarily satisfaction, and then leave you struggling, dissatisfied, and searching for more.

If you only focus on reaching a goal, you miss enjoying your current life, believing that there will be a fulfilling reward, when the goal is achieved.

Basing your happiness on your Purpose leaves you satisfied with whichever way things are.

If your focus is to Live On Purpose, then every adventure becomes a joyous and purposeful experience.

If your travels are based on Living On Purpose you will feel satisfied, whether you reach your goals or not.

It is like the metaphor of driving down the highway of your life. If you hope to get happy when you arrive at your destination, your journey will be “Are we there yet?” waiting for happiness to appear. At best you will have a short spur of happiness when you arrive at a goal, but then your lack of happiness that made you go for your goal in the first place shows up again. Then you look for another destination to get to. Trying to make goals the source of enjoying your life will always leave you looking for something more.

Whereas, if you are savoring and enjoying your life as a continuous interesting adventure, then every day will be fulfilling, whether you are on your way to your goal or have already reached it.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.

Goals are about living for the future – Purpose is living in the now.

Basing your happiness on goals will at best give you temporarily satisfaction, and then leave you struggling, dissatisfied, and searching for more.

If you only focus on reaching a goal, you miss enjoying your current life, believing that there will be a fulfilling reward, when the goal is achieved.

Basing your happiness on your Purpose leaves you satisfied with whichever way things are.

If your focus is to Live On Purpose, then every adventure becomes a joyous and purposeful experience.

If your travels are based on Living On Purpose you will feel satisfied, whether you reach your goals or not.

It is like the metaphor of driving down the highway of your life. If you hope to get happy when you arrive at your destination, your journey will be “Are we there yet?” waiting for happiness to appear. At best you will have a short spur of happiness when you arrive at a goal, but then your lack of happiness that made you go for your goal in the first place shows up again. Then you look for another destination to get to. Trying to make goals the source of enjoying your life will always leave you looking for something more.

Whereas, if you are savoring and enjoying your life as a continuous interesting adventure, then every day will be fulfilling, whether you are on your way to your goal or have already reached it.

Excerpt from the Natural Breathing Own Your Self Manual.